The Love Doctor, Anil Gupta's Playbook for Love, Happiness, and Service

What if the worst day of your life became the starting line for your best one? That’s the emotional turn we explore with Anil Gupta—international best-selling author, widely known as “The Love Doctor”—as he lays out a practical path from crisis to clarity. We walk through the moment he lost his finances and nearly his will to live, and the unexpected answer that shifted everything: a partner who chose presence over panic. From there, Anil breaks down the habits that restore hope and rebuild trust.

We get specific about the happiness formula—Give, Gratitude, Grow—and why it multiplies your wellbeing instead of adding to your to-do list. Anil shows how simple acts of service trigger emotional ripple effects, how gratitude reframes setbacks without denying pain, and how growth requires getting comfortable with uncomfortable reps. We also draw a sharp line between short-term happiness and deeper fulfillment, making the case for designing days around meaning, not just dopamine. If you’ve felt stuck in self-focus, you’ll hear why shifting attention outward often unlocks the energy you need to move forward.

Relationships take center stage as we talk about making your partner your number one priority, modeling love your kids can feel, and using forgiveness to cut the weight you can’t afford to carry. Thinking about a coach? Anil shares a credibility checklist—real track record, clear protocols, and honest testimonials—so you can choose wisely. We wrap with one sentence worth taping to your mirror: be so amazing you cannot be ignored. Add the 1% daily rule and a simple three-foot practice—compliment, thank, or uplift anyone within reach—and watch the compounding effect change your week. If this resonates, share it with someone who needs a lift, hit follow so you don’t miss the next conversation, and leave a quick review to help more people find the show.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Meet Anil Gupta, The Love Doctor
• 2:00 Hitting Bottom: Loss, Suicidal Thoughts, Support
• 5:24 Acts of Service and Family Resilience
• 9:00 A Message to Anyone Struggling
• 10:38 The Happiness Formula: G x G x G
• 15:07 Happiness vs Fulfillment
• 19:30 Making Your Partner Priority One
• 22:39 Why The Formula Works Under Stress

Transcript

SPEAKER_01: 0:37

Welcome back to one-on-one with Mr. U. Of course, I'm your host, Mr. U in studio with us, international best-selling author and those that have called him the Love Doctor. Anil Goof is in the house with us today. Anil, how are you, sir?

SPEAKER_00: 0:51

I'm so happy to be on the show, and uh, it's gonna be a great show.

SPEAKER_01: 0:56

I believe it is, man, just because you're here, man. So thanks for joining us. And if all you guys watching and listening, we are live, so you can follow us on most every social media platform. Of course, by the end of the show, we'd be on the listening platform within the hour. So thanks again for watching and listening. So usually I actually guess to come in, kind of share a little bit about their background, their childhood. How'd you get from there to where you were to where you are right now, man? Go ahead, Neil.

SPEAKER_00: 1:21

So I was born in uh uh Kenya, Africa. We we spent five years there, went to London for uh 35 years. I was uh an optometrist, I had my own practice in London, and then in 2002 we moved to a town called Celebration, which is built by Disney near Disney World.

SPEAKER_01: 1:39

Oh wow.

SPEAKER_00: 1:40

Yeah. And uh 2008, uh, I'd lost everything in the stock market and I was suicidal. And I thought it might be time to tell my wife. So I went up to her and I told her the news, and she looked up at me. She said, I knew something was wrong because you've been behaving strangely. Then she said, I thought it was serious. I thought, honey, we've lost the car, the house, the savings, everything. It's gone. She said, I know that, but I thought it was something serious. I thought you had cancer, I thought you were dying. I don't care about the money. We just want to be with you. As long as we sleep in, as long as we're with you, we'll sleep in the streets if we have to. And that changed everything for me.

unknown: 2:22

Wow.

SPEAKER_00: 2:23

And from there, I started doing events. Five people, 10, 20, 100, 500, eventually 10,000 people, because I got out of my own way. I started serving. In the moment you serve other people, all the pain and suffering disappears. That's what we need to do. Go serve other people, perform acts of kindness, and you'll feel amazing.

SPEAKER_01: 2:45

Absolutely. Your focus is not going to be on you and your stuff, but it'll be on serving others. No, I totally get that. That is an amazing story, Anil. I it's rare for at least for me that I hear families who are ready to kind of just go all the way to the end like that and just say, you know what? As long as we're together, that's what matters the most. People obsess about some of the most basic things. Just like, wow, that that's that's really incredible. What was the what was the impact on your family by the fact that you were actually thinking and having suicidal thoughts? Was there an impact on your family at that time? Is there something that you guys had to work through afterwards? Anything like that?

SPEAKER_00: 3:25

Well, you know, I was showered with love and I felt respected, I felt loved, I felt important, I felt that I wasn't a failure. And that just gave me peace of mind. And then I realized, look, I hadn't lost everything, I was focusing on what I'd lost, but what I had left was priceless. And you know, just having that support with your family. And I just want to say, you know, every morning and every uh evening, my wife puts toothpaste on my toothbrush for me.

SPEAKER_01: 3:52

Wow, okay.

SPEAKER_00: 3:53

You know why? No, because I asked her to. And do you know why? I I have uh nine fractures in my left hand, and when I when I try and do it, it goes all over the place. But every time I see my toothbrush lying there with toothpaste on it, I either think my breath smells or that she loves me. But this is the other part, you've got to have fun in life with your partner.

SPEAKER_01: 4:25

Absolutely. I love this, man. I love this. So I wouldn't spend too much time talking about suicide, but I just feel as though if you can speak to somebody who is watching and listening right now, who may, and I I've I've actually been in this place, so I can relate to some of this. But if you can speak to somebody who's watching and listening right now, who may be at a place where perhaps they sort of have those thoughts. Maybe they're not quite at the point where they want to do anything with those thoughts, but they're already kind of there. They're feeling the uh the tension of life stuff. Take a couple of minutes to speak to them real quick. Take a couple of, take two minutes to kind of speak to them about where they are, and maybe perhaps give them some encouragement to kind of turn a corner, as you did. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00: 5:11

So um remember this two shot past, and through my whole process, you know, I read a book, TEDx, Fox News, Sky TV, ABC, NBC, iHeartRadio, Harvard. I developed a formula, which is the happiness formula, which is happiness is equal to G times G times G. The first G is just you have to give. Give your time, your energy, your love, your commitment, your joy, your gift, your money, give it away, not wanting anything back. When you perform an act of kindness, you feel good, you receive endorphins. The person receiving the act of kindness receives endorphins, the person watching the act of kindness receives endorphins, the person sharing the act of kindness receives endorphins, someone uh receiving the sharing of the act of kindness receives endorphins, so it carries on. So perform acts of kindness. That's what I did. The next G's you have to be grateful for what you have. When I fell down recently and I fractured my left hand and I dislocated, it looked awful. I knew something was really bad. I was upset for 10 seconds, then I was so grateful. I was filled with gratitude. Do you know why? I'm right-handed. So at least I could play pickleball with it. So I got flooded with uh gratitude, and then I realized I have to grow from this, which is the third G. You have to grow emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally, and financially. Obviously, my lowest G would have been emotional. So I had to build myself up and say you're strong, you can handle this, you always have. I can revert back to this. It's only a few weeks, it's only a few months, but be grateful for what you have. Grow and and and and and uh be gratitude. So when I hurt myself, my scores were one one. Okay, then I started to give, I started to grow and started to be grateful, and it became five, five, five. Five times five is twenty-five, times five is 125. So I became 125 times happier by just for watching this formula. So if you're feeling low, ask yourself, what's the lowest G? Have I given? Am I grateful? Am I growing? And if you're not, just do something that will raise your score.

SPEAKER_01: 7:22

I love that. You talked a lot about in our in our pre-interview about happiness and what that looks like. How do you define happiness in the you see?

SPEAKER_00: 7:32

Happiness is external. I'll give you a million dollars, you'll feel happy, but really the full joy comes in fulfillment, which is internal. You if you're inspired, you know, if we we can tell our kids do your homework, do your homework, do your homework, we can motivate to do them to do it, but they don't really want to do it. But if we're inspired and say, hey, if you do your homework, you're gonna get a much better job, you're gonna get a status, you're gonna get you know, all these accolades, people are gonna love you. That's gonna inspire them to do well. So happiness is external, fulfillment is internal, and fulfillment is a feeling. Everything that we do as a human being is a feeling, the feeling of uh being secure, the feeling of a great meal, the feeling of a great relationship. Everything we do is for a feeling.

SPEAKER_01: 8:23

Totally understood. I get that. I want to come back to the uh idea of the happiness formula and where you got a chance to share that information. But I want to ask you something about some things we said earlier because I don't want to gloss over that. Uh my wife and I have been married uh 29 years, just past a couple months ago. So we're uh walking through great strides that we didn't think we'd be in a position to do. And when you share the story about your situation with having uh the suicidal thoughts and overcoming that doubt of suicide and your the way your wife responded, you know, I don't know if that's a common thing. I'm not sure it's hard for me to say that, but it doesn't seem like it's common to me. Can you explain to the audience how you feel like you cultivated that relationship with your wife that that was the response that she had? Can you can you point out anything that you think happened, things that you saw, things that you've done that you've done together to work toward that to improve the relationship, cause her to have that kind of response?

SPEAKER_00: 9:22

Yeah, so the the secret is this so listen up, always make your partner your number one priority, and you do that when you date, you do that at the beginning of the relationship, but then when a baby comes, all of a sudden, you don't make your partner your number one priority.

SPEAKER_01: 9:42

All right, that's the truth, yeah.

SPEAKER_00: 9:44

That's so true, right? But if you did, your capacity to love and be loved increases. Your kids will see you doing that, your partner will never leave you, and your kids' partners will never leave them. It's a big thing. Make your partner your number one priority, make them feel loved and respected, look after them, and it's not just something I did a week before. It was uh 20 years of serving, serving, serving. And you just keep on doing it, and and you get so much back because you're not doing it as a transaction. A lot of it is, hey, I'll do this for you, will you do this for me? No, it's the right thing to do, and it's effortless and frictionless.

SPEAKER_01: 10:31

I love this. And you have a website that we're gonna be definitely directing people to before the episode ends, talking about how you formulated what's called a happiness formula, relationship scores, and the relationship ratio. You've spoken about those on platforms such as Fox News, Sky TV, Harvard, TIDEX. Tell me what how these formulas are, how do you believe they're helpful to people and why why did you give them a try?

SPEAKER_00: 11:00

Well, the thing is we get overwhelmed, we get so stressed, we we don't know what to do. So this chunks it down into three areas. Do I need to grow? Do I need to give? Do I need to be grateful? Then you can focus and really not get overwhelmed, and then you have a game plan. Then you know this is what I need to do, and this is what I'm going to do. And it's so powerful because it removes all the well, overwhelm, it takes you out of the equation, it stops you, it's it brings you to the now, and then you can see things as they are, not catastrophize, not make them worse as they are.

SPEAKER_01: 11:37

Makes a lot of sense, Alexis. In this mindset that you're talking about, I mean, I know that anybody that's watching and listening, they probably feel like they've heard it before. Perhaps it's not totally unique to them, but this is not, this is this is pretty rare because the world around us runs contrary to this kind of behavior, and they kind of think more about take care of yourself and don't worry about the the next person. But what you're talking about and what we've talked about in our conversations is more of a giving, more of a generosity kind of approach to living, because we believe that if we take our focus off of us and put on other people, it would show how small maybe perhaps the mountains that we make it really big, maybe they're not really that big at all. What kind of challenges have you seen personally in having this approach and sharing it on all these platforms that you've been on, major television and radio platforms, and even talking to people through your uh book book signings and such such. Where do you see some of the biggest challenges you've experienced by trying to share this kind of viewpoint with people in the world?

SPEAKER_00: 12:45

So, really, the it's it's really about just going and doing it. At first, it's awkward, you know, getting on stage for the first time is awkward. Never mind in front of 10,000 people, um, and going on your first podcast, going on the first TV show, it's scary. I remember I was asked to uh speak at uh Fox News, um, and they said, Okay, tomorrow morning you're on. And guess what happened next? I lost my voice. Oh I lost my voice. It's no coincidence. So I called up a friend of mine, he's a voice coach, you've got to help me. He said, Yeah, yeah, two or three days. I said, No, no, now, now it's but it's nearly midnight. No, I don't care. Help me, and he did, but I that way you think, oh, I'm not good enough to, you know, who won't want to listen to me? So there's a lot of psychology and mindset, or there's a lot of fear that human beings have. And you know, the biggest growth comes when you're uncomfortable about being comfortable. But as human beings, we like to be comfortable about being comfortable, and if you get comfortable about being uncomfortable, you will get massive growth. You're gonna have to listen to that again.

SPEAKER_01: 14:44

Love that. One of the things, and you've been internationally known as the love doctor, which I think is a pretty cool name. You've helped individuals kind of uh create uh stronger relationship dynamics in specific areas such as business, which I was pretty surprised about, uh personal intimate relationships, and I'm you know, just people's uh family and you know, just personal fulfillment areas. Which area out of those do you think has been the most challenging for you to help people develop uh a stronger relationship dynamic in? Business, the intimate side, or just in a personal development?

SPEAKER_00: 15:21

Honestly, they they're all very similar because they all have a common theme. Um, and that's forgiveness, letting go, communication, tone, languaging, the words that you use, the questions that you uh uh answer. And it's it's the the biggest uh thing that holds people back is are they coachable? Are they willing to learn? Are they willing to get uncomfortable? Are they willing to let go? You know, forgiveness is a big thing. Forgiveness is the uh express pathway to freedom. The quality of your life is dependent on the depth and authenticity of the forgiveness you extend to yourself and to others. When you forgive the other person, it's not that they win, it's you win. A huge burden is lifted off your shoulders. Huge.

SPEAKER_01: 16:07

It's really good. I like this. Uh a lot of folks that come on that are guests of ours and they do a lot of things in the coaching mentorship space, they're considered experts in their field and such. What do you think, Anil, is the most important factor in someone choosing a relationship coach? I know this trust is a big part of that, but trust has to be earned. It's not something that you kind of have from the outset fully, at least. What do you think is the most important factors in someone choosing a relationship coach? Why would they choose you? Why should they choose you as a coach? Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00: 16:41

And it's all about credibility. Don't choose a coach that's not married, don't choose a coach that hasn't a track record. And don't believe when people say, you know what, I've had 30 relationships, they're all failed, but I know what not to do. No, don't do that. Get someone with credibility and interview them, have a conversation with them first, ask them what their protocols are, ask them how many video testimonials they've got, how many books they've written, how many stages they're speaking on, and and really do your homework. Because really, you should only ever have one relationship expert. I'm and I'm known as a love doctor, the last relationship you ever need to meet. No one has ever picked the wrong relationship whilst they've been working with me. And that's the secret. Don't pick the wrong partner, wait for the right partner, and when they come, you'll know, and we can guide you and teach you how to find them, keep them, maintain them, and have a beautiful life. And when you find the right partner, it's easy to maintain that partner because you're being you, they're being them, there's no dating facade where people have been acting to show up the best versions of themselves to other people.

SPEAKER_01: 17:50

I love that. I want to talk a little bit about your book, Immediate Happiness. I want to ask you a two-part question. One, what was the impetus for why you wrote the book? And secondly, in the book, you advise people to start watching other people. Love to hear why you advise that. So, why do you write the book? Why you advise people from your book to watch other people?

unknown: 18:12

Okay.

SPEAKER_00: 18:12

Okay. So um I remember a friend saying to me, Neil, why don't you write a book? I said, Well, you know, I'm not sure really. I don't know how to. So, well, I'll help you. And then um, I wrote the book, he helped me, and it was sitting on my desk for a year because I thought, who am I to write a book? You know, I I I have grammar mistakes, spelling mistakes, and then someone said this to me, Anil, will your book help people? I said, Of course it'll help people. Oh my god, yes. He said, Every day you delay publishing it, someone is suffering. And I thought, oh my god, I've been focusing on me, my ego. So I thought, you know what? Then we got it published. Now, the reason I ask I ask people to observe other people is to collect data. I call it A, B, C, D. Always be collecting data. And what you're doing, you're looking for patterns in people's behavior, you're observing them, you're not judging them, you're observing their behavior so that you can collect that data, and then you get a master, you become masterful in uh, I call it EQ, emotional quotient, how emotionally aware you are, and it's a beautiful thing. Emotional quotient. I love this, I love this.

SPEAKER_01: 19:31

We're coming down to the uh last few questions of the show. All you shared so far already, really appreciate this. Uh if whether you're talking or you speak on a podcast like this, if there was one takeaway that you feel like was the most important one, like if I don't say anything else, I need to say this or share this point. What's the most important takeaway for you that you you want listeners to grab from what you would share?

SPEAKER_00: 19:57

Okay, this one sentence will change your life. Okay, so listen up, it will change your life. If you do this one thing, it'll be a game changer. Ready? Be so amazing, you cannot be ignored. And if you're ignored, it doesn't matter because how you show up will be the best version of you. This one thing, you do this one thing, be the best version of you, show up the nicest, kindest, most loving person that you could possibly be. Your life will change, the people's lives around you will change, and a huge amount of abundance will come your way.

SPEAKER_01: 20:41

I love it, I love it. People go to your site, we're gonna have it up on the screen where you can find your work, www. well meetandil.com. What do you want people to expect, or what do you think they're gonna expect to see when they are going to your website? What should they be looking for?

SPEAKER_00: 21:02

I I I don't want anyone to expect anything because the more expectations you have in life, the more painful life is. Just go on the website, just have a look and see if it resonates with you, see if it aligns with you, see if you can learn something. There's plenty of free content there.

SPEAKER_01: 21:19

Very good, very good. This is our final question for the show, and I've always you know asked that people get ready for this, and you're already prepared for it already. It's called a CMV question, career mission, and vocation. What I'm doing now as an exercise, I'm just removing everything that you've done up to this point, your speaking, your speaking gigs, your authoring books, everything you've done as a career or even as a hobby. I'm moving over the table. What do you believe Anil Gupta is doing today that he hasn't done yet?

SPEAKER_00: 21:48

I'm playing an even bigger game. I'm doing one to two podcasts a day. I'm serving people in any way that I can. I have a three-foot rule. Anyone who comes within three feet of me, I'm gonna compliment, thank them, or say something nice to them. So I'm I'm getting on bigger radio shows, bigger events, uh, bigger stages, and I'm on a mission to uh inspire a billion people.

SPEAKER_01: 22:13

Okay. How's that how'd that how'd that playing on?

SPEAKER_00: 22:17

I think I'm at about 110 million. So uh, but the fastest way is through digital media. Yeah, social media. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01: 22:26

That's amazing. No, that's that's that's that's that's outstanding, man. Well, your work size on the on the screen for those that are listening and not watching the show today. M-E-E-T-A-N-I-L.com, meetanil.com. You can get there, check out what he has going on. Love Dr. Love to schedule the time to talk to you and hear some of your relationship struggles. And I believe this man can potentially help you. So I'm excited about you being here, man, and any uh any closing thoughts, anything else that people want to know about you, your work, your book, or just any kind of general life advice. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00: 23:04

So do one thing, make a decision today. The decisions you make today will change how you show up the rest of your life. You know, be 1% happier, 1% more uh joyous, 1% more playful, 1% more fun, 1% more loving, and do that every day. And the compounding effect of that will change your life. Make a decision today that's positive and just notice how your life will change.

SPEAKER_01: 23:33

Thank you again, sir, for jumping on here. This has been a fantastic conversation. Sorry we're so short, but I definitely enjoyed the time with you, man. And for all you guys that are watching and listening today, we're live on every platform with a couple of exceptions. We'll have those up within the next half hour or so, as well as on all the listening platforms Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, Pandora, you name it. We'll be up in the next half hour or so. But thanks again for watching and listening. That's Anil Gupta, that's the Love Doctor. I'm Mr. U. Thanks again for watching and listening. Up right-hand corner is a QR code where you can find more information about me and our show. Have a great day, and thanks again for watching and for listening.

unknown: 24:11

Thanks.